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My Experience as a Father - Aloysius D'Souza
is said: “God
made Mothers, because he could not be everywhere”
what man is there among you, of whom if a son shall ask bread, will he
reach him a stone?
if he shall ask him a fish, will he reach him a serpent?
you then being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children: how
much more will your Father, who is in heaven, give good things to them
that ask him!” -- Mathew – Chapter 7 – verses 9 to 11
a Father’s job only to provide the food in his household?
yes, that is his major requirement
protect and provide for his wife and family --but today many Mothers
also work, particularly when
two salaries are essential to meet the highly inflated costs of
then also have to share in the chores in the home and outdoor errand
earlier generations Father was the disciplinarian
-- a real bogeyman in
some cases --
Mother would say “
If you do not eat or study or ….,
I will tell your Father”
and the moment Father entered he had to listen to a tale of woe from his
wife and punish or at least give a good talking to the
I grew up in a home where my Dad was the democratic type
-- he did shout once
in a while, but most often we had fun together.
I hope I achieved somewhat the same relationship with my daughter
(Dad is now 96 years old but I still feel that sometimes he thinks I am
about seven years old --
and mothers are even worse in thinking that that their babies never
my daughter was tiny, I used to do a lot of touring and hence was spared
the squalling stage -- I was afraid
to carry her till she was six months old.
But after that she and I did a lot together
-- to the extent that
I would help her in her mischief and get shouted at by my wife.
I sincerely believe that if she got into mischief at this early
age, we would be spared the consequences of more dangerous mischief when
she was older.
her, when she was at school, was no problem
-- she got
a few hard knocks on her head, which she claims really made the
knowledge stay in. But my
approach to study was not exactly what her teachers wanted
tried to make her learn by doing
by looking up a dictionary
experiments in the kitchen (with wife shouting that we would poison all of
planting seeds and pulling
them up every now and then to check the growth of roots, leaves, etc
date line by actually crossing over the Pacific from Japan to America -- and having
the same day in Japan as we had when we reached Los Angeles after more
than twelve hours travel plus a stop over at Honolulu
mathematics by taking the
contents of her “Mickey Mouse” bank to Bank of India to open her own
Savings Bank Account when she was about five years old and surprising the staff by
sorting out the coins (one,
two, five, ten & twenty paise coins) into lots of ten and then putting
them together in one Rupee lots. (After
seeing her do this, the lady cashier refused to re-count and accepted the
figure she had written in her deposit slip --some nineteen Rupees--she
continues to have her account in the same bank.)
to love books and knowledge therein,
by leaving her in the Asiatic Library, while I went about my work on
a consequence she surprised me by one day producing a form for my
agreeing to her going to Cambridge for further studies on a
scholarship she had applied for and won .
I have had fun being a son and I have fun being a father -- I wish that all you young ladies have enjoyed being daughters and pray that if and when you get married you will ensure that your husband enjoys being a father to his kids.
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